What to Expect from Your First Evidential Mediumship Reading
Preparing for Your First Reading
Your first evidential mediumship reading can feel exciting, nerve-wracking, and emotionally charged all at once. Proper preparation helps you get the most from the experience while maintaining realistic expectations.
If you're new to mediumship entirely, you may want to first read our guide: What Is Evidential Mediumship?
Important Preparation Steps
Set Realistic Expectations Understand that the medium cannot control who comes through or what they'll say. Your intended person may not appear first, or the messages may not be what you expect. Sometimes unexpected spirits come through with important messages.
Prepare Questions Mentally While you shouldn't lead the reading, have questions in mind that you'd like answered if the opportunity arises naturally. Write them down beforehand so you don't forget in the emotional moment.
Avoid Oversharing Before the Reading Don't provide the medium with information about who you hope to hear from or details about your life. This keeps the reading evidential. Simply book the appointment without backstory.
Bring Recording Materials Ask permission to record (most mediums welcome this). Bring a recording device or use your phone. Also bring a notebook—writing helps some people process emotions during intense moments.
Prepare Emotionally Acknowledge that you may cry, laugh, or experience a range of emotions. This is completely normal. Consider bringing tissues and allowing time afterward to decompress.
Stay Open but Discerning Balance openness to whatever comes through with healthy skepticism. You should feel comfortable saying "no" or "I don't know" when information doesn't resonate.
What Happens During Your Reading
The Reading Structure
Opening and Connection (5 minutes) The medium will typically:
Explain their process and what to expect
Set intentions and boundaries
Enter a meditative or receptive state
Begin connecting with the spirit world
Explain how you should respond (usually with simple "yes," "no," or "I don't know")
Evidence Delivery (20-25 minutes) The medium will share specific details about spirits who come through:
Physical descriptions (height, build, hair color, distinctive features)
Personality traits and mannerisms
Cause of passing and health conditions
Occupation and hobbies
Relationship to you
Shared memories or inside jokes
Names, dates, and locations
Objects or symbols with significance
The medium might say things like: "I have a woman who shows me she was petite, maybe 5'2", with short curly hair. She's showing me she passed from something in her chest—lung or heart related. She worked with children, maybe teaching, and she's showing me the name Margaret or Maggie. She's pointing to her wedding ring and showing me you have it now."
Your Role: Validation Confirm whether the information is accurate:
"Yes" when you recognize the information
"No" when it doesn't fit
"I don't know" or “I need more information” when you're uncertain (you can verify later)
Be honest—saying "yes" to incorrect information defeats the purpose
Messages and Meaning After establishing identity through evidence, spirits often share:
Expressions of love and pride
Forgiveness or requests for forgiveness
Acknowledgment of recent life events
Guidance or encouragement
Shared jokes or references only you'd understand
Validation that they're at peace
Closing (5-10 minutes) The medium will:
Close the spiritual connection properly
Offer guidance on processing the experience
Answer your questions about the reading
Discuss anything that needs clarification
Red Flags: Warning Signs of Fraudulent or Unethical Mediums
They Ask Leading Questions Ethical mediums provide information first, then ask for validation. Red flag: "I'm sensing someone in your family passed from cancer—does that resonate?" Better: "I have someone showing me something with their chest, lungs specifically, possibly cancer."
They Make Guarantees No legitimate medium can guarantee who will come through or what they'll say. Red flag: "I promise your mother will come through with answers about your inheritance."
They Fish for Information Watch for mediums who:
Ask about your life before providing evidence
Make guesses based on your age, clothing, or jewelry
Use social media to research you beforehand
Ask yes/no questions before establishing evidence
They Charge Exorbitant or Hidden Fees Red flags include:
Dramatically different pricing for "special access"
Pressure to book multiple sessions upfront
Additional charges for "spiritual cleansing" or "curse removal"
Fees for "emergency spiritual work"
Legitimate mediums charge consistent, transparent rates. Check resources like the Windbridge Research Center for guidance on reasonable pricing.
They Provide Only Vague, General Statements "I'm sensing a father figure who loved you" could apply to millions of people. This is "cold reading," not evidential mediumship. Demand specificity.
They Claim Special Powers or Spiritual Superiority Be cautious of mediums who:
Claim they're the "only one" who can help you
Say they have exclusive connections to spirits
Position themselves as spiritually superior
Use fear tactics ("I sense darkness around you")
They Make Future Predictions as Primary Focus Evidential mediumship focuses on providing evidence of identity and past/present events. While spirits sometimes reference the future, it shouldn't dominate the reading. Major red flag: readings focused entirely on predictions rather than evidence.
They Discourage Recording or Note-Taking Ethical mediums welcome recording—it protects both them and you. If a medium refuses, question why.
To conclude
Your first evidential mediumship reading can be a transformative experience when approached with preparation, realistic expectations, and openness. By choosing a reputable medium, understanding the process, and knowing what constitutes genuine evidential work versus red flags, you create the conditions for a meaningful and healing connection.
Remember:
✓ Research mediums thoroughly before booking
✓ Prepare emotionally but avoid oversharing beforehand
✓ Record the session and take notes
✓ Respond honestly—yes, no, or I don't know
✓ Trust the process even if unexpected spirits come through
✓ Give yourself time to process afterward
✓ Verify details with family members
✓ Maintain healthy skepticism while staying open
The goal isn't to "test" the medium but to remain receptive to whatever messages come through while maintaining discernment. Whether you receive the closure you seek, unexpected insights, or simply a renewed sense of connection with loved ones in spirit, evidential mediumship offers a unique window into the possibility of consciousness beyond physical death.
Ready to experience your first reading? Visit my booking page to learn more about evidential mediumship services.